Living with a Morning Person is Tough
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Let me preface this by saying, I am not a morning person. At all.
I wake up most mornings to the sound of my wife’s voice. She is my alarm clock. I have no specific office hours to keep as a church pastor so there is no particular time I have to get up. My wife, on the other hand, is a teacher and she has to be at school shortly after 7 AM. She hates to leave and not say goodbye so she wakes me up before she goes. I don’t mind.
The only problem with this scenario is my inability to think, speak, and perform basic motor skills such as walking without running into doorways until I’ve had plenty of time to wake up and perhaps a cup of coffee or two. My wife, however, hits the floor running. She is a morning person. Her mind is alert first thing and it shows.
My daily routine begins with my wife shaking me and saying, “I need to leave soon.” I slowly open my eyes. I eventually motivate myself to throw off the covers. I roll out of bed. I lazily make my way to the kitchen. I fumble my way through the process of making coffee. I wait for it to brew. Then, I drink just as soon as the first cup is ready.
It’s usually at that moment I realize my wife’s been talking to me the entire time. She has declared my official to-do list for the day among other things. Of course, I missed most of it.
That may be a slight exaggeration but it’s not far from the truth. Like I said, I’m not a morning person. At all. If I’m able to recognize what my wife has said as being something important–something I need to remember–I usually ask her to write it down. I’ll read it later when I am awake.
The funny thing is that my wife is exactly like me–only at night. Her brain hits a wall at some point in the evening and completely shuts down. She rarely remembers the next morning what we talked about just before bed. Unfortunately, that’s precisely when my mind is most alive. That’s when I’m ready to talk.
Do birds of a feather flock together? Do opposites attract? In our case, it’s a little of both. We have the most important things in common–values, faith, etc.–but when it comes to all the little things–tastes in music, personality quirks, etc.–we are nothing alike. It works for us and I wouldn’t have it any other way. However, if we were both workaholics and never saw each other with the exception of late evenings and early mornings, we’d never make it.
Maybe I’ll buy this t-shirt and wear it to bed as a reminder to my wife…
"Not a Morning Person" T-Shirt
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Jeremy Sarber
I'm the pastor of one of the most blessed churches in all the world. I'm married to the most wonderful woman to walk the face of the earth. I'm host of possibly the most unconventional podcast on the Internet. I am thankful because I deserve none of it. Twitter | Facebook | Google+ | LinkedIn | Email
I think the "mix" will work fine. Danae leaves notes in the morning; you write her at night. I am totally a morning person. And, like you explained, at a certain time...about 9 p.m...my wall looms up and I can't make intelligent conversation. Systems begin shutting down. You'll have to find that space of time...before her wall and after your recovery from morning...and share EVERYthing you can think of. And, God blesses...
This sounds exactly like my scenario. I am a morning person, and my husband is not.
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